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Episode 23

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13th May 2026

Quick Spoon: If I was at my absolute best...

What do you do in those moments when emotions are running high?

An awkward conversation.

A difficult email.

A family disagreement.

A colleague who’s pushing your buttons.

In this Quick Spoon from my conversation with Dr Eric Goodman, we explore one simple question that can create a little more space… and a little more choice:

“If I was at my absolute best right now… what would I want to do?”

Not…

What do I feel like doing?

Not…

What would be easiest?

But…

What would my best self choose?

A practical reflection on values, choice, and how to respond—rather than simply react—when things get challenging.

People Soup: Real conversations about work, leadership, and being human — grounded in behavioural science, with practical ideas you can actually use.

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Transcript

QS6 If I Was at My Absolute Best…

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[00:00:01] you're having an argument with your

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[00:00:05] feel like

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[00:00:07] their mother or something like that, right?

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[00:00:15] was at my absolute best, what would I want to do? How would I [00:00:20] want to deal with this?

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[00:00:22] gives you

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[00:00:26] to, work towards.

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[00:00:28] Eric: So, when

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[00:00:31] they need things made very

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[00:00:39] Ross: Hi there, [00:00:40] and welcome to People Soup Quick Spoon real conversations about work, leadership, and being human, grounded in behavioral science with practical ideas you can [00:00:50] actually use. Ross McIntosh and here's your quick spoon.

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[00:01:21] Ross: That's your QUICK SPOON Until next time, take care.

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About the Podcast

People Soup
Real conversations about work, leadership and being human.
Grounded in behavioural science, each episode is packed with practical ideas you can put into practice straight away.

The name People Soup comes from a quote by Abraham Maslow:

"A first-rate soup is more creative than a second-rate painting."

I've always loved that idea. Creativity isn't confined to art. It shows up in how we live, work, lead and relate to one another.

Work can sometimes feel like a soup: a rich, sometimes bewildering mix of people, personalities, decisions, pressures, relationships and unexpected challenges. Every day we're trying to make sense of the ingredients we've been given.

Behavioural science doesn't remove the complexity, but it gives us practical ways to navigate it. It offers ideas, skills and evidence-based tools that help us respond more effectively—to ourselves, to other people and to the situations we face.

That's what People Soup is all about.

Through conversations, solo episodes and practical tools, People Soup explores how behavioural science—and particularly Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)—can help us lead, work and live with greater purpose, psychological flexibility and practical wisdom.

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Ross McIntosh

I'm Ross McIntosh, a business psychologist, coach and facilitator, with over 30 years' experience helping people thrive at work.

People Soup grew from a simple belief: work is an important part of life, but it doesn't have to come at the expense of our wellbeing, our relationships or our values.

Each episode explores the realities of work, leadership and being human through the lens of behavioural science. Sometimes that's a conversation with an inspiring guest. Sometimes it's a short "Quick Spoon" offering a practical idea you can put into practice straight away.

My work is grounded in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), an evidence-based approach that helps people develop psychological flexibility: the ability to stay purposeful, adaptable and effective, even when life gets messy.

Whether you're leading a team, supporting others, or simply trying to navigate the pressures of modern work, my hope is that People Soup gives you practical tools, fresh perspectives and the confidence to take your next meaningful step.

A few things about me
Chartered Fellow of the CIPD.
Fellow of the Association for Coaching.
Research collaborator with City St George's, University of London.
Speaker, facilitator and leadership development consultant.
Founder and Host of the People Soup podcast.

When I'm not recording the podcast or working with clients, you'll usually find me reading, cycling, improving my Spanish, or enjoying life in southern Spain with my husband.