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15th May 2026

Quick Spoon: Speak to three people

What do you do when anxiety shows up… right when something matters?

A networking event.

A room full of strangers.

A voice in your head saying:

“Your Spanish isn’t good enough.”

In this Quick Spoon, I share a very real moment from a networking event for psychologists in Seville—where social anxiety showed up… and so did the urge to run.

But instead of waiting to feel confident…

I tried something smaller.

Something more workable.

Speak to three people.

That was the goal.

Not confidence.

Not perfection.

Just one small, values-based action.

A practical reflection on anxiety, workable goals, and taking action—even when your mind is telling you otherwise.

People Soup: Real conversations about work, leadership, and being human — grounded in behavioural science, with practical ideas you can actually use.

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Transcript

QS7. Speak to Three People

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[00:00:11] and felt a great

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[00:00:15] But I'd actually used your strategies and decided look, if I [00:00:20] speak to three people, that will be pretty big achievement for me.

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[00:00:27] looking slightly wallflower [00:00:30] like and just staring at their phones.

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[00:00:32] I approached one

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[00:00:34] conversation and,

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[00:00:40] They were very kind and we had a

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[00:00:47] Hi there, and welcome to People Soup Quick [00:00:50] Spoon real conversations about work, leadership, and being human, grounded in behavioral science with practical ideas you can actually use. Ross [00:01:00] McIntosh and here's your quick spoon.

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[00:01:25] That's your QUICK SPOON Until next time, take care.

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About the Podcast

People Soup
Real conversations about work, leadership and being human
A podcast exploring work, leadership, and being human through real conversations - grounded in behavioural science and full of practical ideas you can apply straight away.

The name People Soup was inspired by a quote from the psychologist Abraham Maslow:

"A first-rate soup is more creative than a second-rate painting."

I've always loved that idea. Creativity isn't confined to art, it can be found in the way we live, work, lead and relate to one another.

Work can sometimes feel like a soup: a rich, sometimes bewildering mix of people, personalities, decisions, pressures, relationships and unexpected challenges. Every day we're trying to make sense of the ingredients we've been given.

Behavioural science can't remove the complexity, but it can help us work with it. It offers practical ingredients, useful tools and simple ways of thinking that help us respond more effectively—to ourselves, to other people and to the situations we face.

That's what People Soup is all about.

Work is rarely tidy. It's a soup rather than a recipe. We don't get to choose every ingredient, but we can learn how to work skilfully with what's already in the pot.

About your host

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Ross McIntosh

I'm Ross McIntosh, a business psychologist, coach and facilitator, with over 30 years' experience helping people thrive at work.

People Soup grew from a simple belief: work is an important part of life, but it doesn't have to come at the expense of our wellbeing, our relationships or our values.

Each episode explores the realities of work, leadership and being human through the lens of behavioural science. Sometimes that's a conversation with an inspiring guest. Sometimes it's a short "Quick Spoon" offering a practical idea you can put into practice straight away.

My work is grounded in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), an evidence-based approach that helps people develop psychological flexibility: the ability to stay purposeful, adaptable and effective, even when life gets messy.

Whether you're leading a team, supporting others, or simply trying to navigate the pressures of modern work, my hope is that People Soup gives you practical tools, fresh perspectives and the confidence to take your next meaningful step.

A few things about me
Chartered Fellow of the CIPD.
Fellow of the Association for Coaching.
Research collaborator with City St George's, University of London.
Speaker, facilitator and leadership development consultant.
Founder and Host of the People Soup podcast.

When I'm not recording the podcast or working with clients, you'll usually find me reading, cycling, improving my Spanish, or enjoying life in southern Spain with my husband.