Quick Spoon: Locked out of the controls
Why do we sometimes react in ways that don’t feel like us?
Why do we say things we later regret, shut down under pressure, or act against our values?
In this Quick Spoon from my conversation with Dr Eric Goodman, we explore a powerful idea:
Sometimes, in difficult moments…
“We’re locked out of the controls.”
And if that’s true…
Beating ourselves up probably isn’t the answer.
Awareness might be.
A practical reflection on self-compassion, threat responses, and how to choose a response that’s guided by your values—not just your emotions.
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Transcript
QS3 Locked Out of the Controls
[:[00:00:03] behave in primitive sorts of ways. We're going to end
[:[00:00:10] we wouldn't choose to do.
[:[00:00:12] that we regret. Now it doesn't make
[:[00:00:18] are
[:[00:00:21] but if you want
[:[00:00:27] in a way that is [00:00:30] helpful, not harmful, and in a ways that eases your suffering
[:[00:00:36] choose how to respond in a way that's based on your [00:00:40] values, not,
[:[00:00:45] Ross: Hi there, and welcome to People Soup Quick Spoon real conversations [00:00:50] about work, leadership, and being human, grounded in behavioral science with practical ideas you can actually use. Ross McIntosh and here's your quick [00:01:00] spoon.
[:[00:01:25] That's your QUICK SPOON Until next time, take care.
