Episode 30

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29th May 2026

Quick Spoon: Leadership starts feeling difficult

In this Quick Spoon, Ross explores the fourth skill in the McIntosh Leadership Framework: Adaptability.

Inspired by a candid reflection from Gabriella Braun, this episode explores what happens when leadership becomes uncertain, messy, political, and deeply human.

So many leadership books promise certainty, control, and easy answers.

But real leadership often starts feeling difficult at exactly the moment complexity arrives.

Ross reflects on what leaders can do when pressure rises, certainty disappears, and their usual ways of coping stop working.

And he shares one practical question that can help turn pressure into purposeful action.

In this Quick Spoon

🥄 Why leadership becomes harder under uncertainty

🥄 What happens when leaders grip tighter under pressure

🥄 The hidden link between rigidity and reduced impact

🥄 A practical reflection question to try this week

Key reflection

“Who do I want to be in this moment?”

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Transcript

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[00:00:15] I really floundered

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[00:00:40] And they didn't go. near t he really difficult people stuff. Hi there, and welcome to [00:00:50] People Soup Quick Spoon. Real conversations about work, leadership, and being human. I'm Ross McIntosh, and here's your quick spoon.

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[00:01:06] Leadership often starts feeling difficult right [00:01:10] around the moment it starts feeling uncertain and complex, messy, political, human. And in those moments, many leaders start gripping [00:01:20] tighter, trying harder, seeking certainty, And sometimes their behavior starts to tip into unhelpfulness, and their impact starts to shrink.

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[00:01:48] Until next time, take [00:01:50] care

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People Soup
Real conversations about work, leadership and being human
A podcast exploring work, leadership, and being human through real conversations — grounded in behavioural science and full of practical ideas you can apply straight away.

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Ross McIntosh

I'm a work psychologist. I want to help you navigate the daily challenges of work by sharing behavioural science in a way that's accessible, useful and fun.
I'm originally from Northumberland in the UK and I now live near Seville in Spain with my husband.